When should you tell your children you’re getting divorced?

On Behalf of | Jan 7, 2022 | Divorce |

Once you and your spouse decide to get divorced, you’ve probably already been thinking about it for some time. You may have had discussions about it between the two of you.

If you’re parents, though, then you are going to have to break this news to your children. When should you do this? There are a few things to consider. 

Don’t do it until you’re sure that’s what you’re doing

First, do not talk to the children about this until you’re 100% positive that you are going to get a divorce. Don’t bring it up just because you and your spouse are going through a hard time or having an argument. Don’t tell them about it and increase their own stress when it’s not really going to happen. You only want to talk to them after you’ve made a definitive decision.

Don’t wait until the kids start to guess on their own

On the other hand, you don’t want to wait too long to do this. Some say it’s better to do it sooner than later. Remember that your children are going to intuitively understand that something is different in the home. This can create a lot of stress if they’re not sure what it is. You also don’t want to tell them on the day that your spouse is moving out, or that you’re moving out. They deserve to know in advance and to be part of this process.

Naturally, you will have to use your own discretion depending on their ages and other things of this nature.

As you and your spouse work through this process with your children, make sure you take the time to carefully look into all of your legal options. You need to make the best decisions for your kids and for your future.