Can a family member be your surrogate mother?

| May 21, 2021 | Uncategorized |

You want to have a child but are unable to do so traditionally. You love the idea of surrogacy, which will still give you a biological child in a way you never thought would be possible. 

Now you just have to find the right surrogate mother. Should you ask a family member? Would that be the simplest way to find someone — and to guarantee that it’s someone you trust?

This may not actually be a wise path

This is possible and people do it. You have to make this decision for yourself. Just be warned that many experts consider it to be controversial and do not recommend that you take this route. 

There are a few reasons. For one thing, money enters the picture. You would pay a traditional surrogate. Do you need to pay your family member? Should it be the same amount? Is this going to cause issues between family members, as money so often does?

Another potential problem is that the surrogate would then have a lasting relationship with the child. That sounds like a good thing, but it may not be. Technically, a surrogate doesn’t have parental rights. If you used a third party, the relationship would end after the child’s birth. With a family member, that relationship will always exist. Could this lead to disagreements or a situation where someone wants to be more involved with your child than you’re comfortable with?

Get help making the right decision

Surrogacy is a beautiful way to have a child and it can open a lot of doors. Just take the time to make the right decision on who to choose and to learn about all of the legal steps you should take during this time. An early consultation with an attorney can help you make more informed decisions about your options.