What should birth mothers ask prospective adoptive parents?

On Behalf of | Feb 6, 2020 | Adoption |

Making an adoption plan for your baby is a tremendous act of generosity and love — and you naturally want to make certain that you pick the right adoptive parents. But meeting potential adoptive parents is intimidating, and you aren’t sure what questions you should even be asking.

It’s okay. Rest assured, the prospective adoptive parents are just as nervous as you are about the meeting. (It’s likely that they’re searching online for the right questions to ask you, also.) Here are some early talking points you may be able to use:

  • What is your family like? Do you have a lot of relatives or just a few? What are they like? How often do you see them? How do they feel about the fact you’re adopting?
  • What do you do for a living? Will that change after you adopt? What kind of childcare do you plan to use?
  • Can you describe a typical week in your home? What do you do in the evenings? What do you do for fun on the weekends?
  • What is your town like? What do you love about living there? How do you think a child will like growing up there?
  • What do you plan to tell the child about the adoption? Are you willing to talk about an open adoption?

Don’t expect to make up your mind immediately about the prospective adoptive parents — and don’t be afraid to delve into the deeper issues. You and the adoptive parents may each hold strong beliefs about religion, vaccinations, diet, education and other important topics. Once the conversation gets moving, you need to start asking harder questions to make sure that everyone is on the same page.

If you’re not ready to raise a child and are looking for an adoption plan that’s right for you and your baby, contact our office for more information.